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Most of us have “assumed the worst” in a situation, only to discover later our thoughts were totally wrong. Unfortunately, our assumptions led us down a path that ended in conflict.

Take a few moments to think of how you have “assumed” the worst and more importantly, how your incorrect assumption led to conflict.

Recall something recent where you didn’t get an expected phone call or perhaps your child or mate didn’t show up when they were supposed to.

Maybe your employer made a comment or gave you a “look” that got your thinking about the worst.

Chances are, your subconscious began working overtime, feeding you all kinds of negative thoughts such as:

• Why are they late? I hope nothing bad has happened.
• What if the person I was expecting to call didn’t want to talk with or see me anymore?
• Maybe the expected party was in an accident.
• What if my boss is disappointed with my work and wants to fire me?

I’m sure you can easily recall many times where you feared the worst, only to discover your thoughts were not true.

At first, you might go through a lot of “fear” thoughts, thinking the worst and worrying about the outcome. Read more…

The holidays seem to bring out the best in some, but for many it appears to bring out the worst. Studies show that in spite of all the “feel-good” movies, Christmas Holidays are very stressful for most.

The entire marketing aspect of the Christmas Holidays and gift giving creates unwarranted fears and/or worries.

We have expectations about how others should act. We expect we should “receive” specific gifts. We stress over what to buy our loved ones – or worse yet we feel inadequate for not having the funds to buy someone special that “ultimate” gift.

I want to help you with this.

Ask your self “What if…”

• This Christmas you made the decision to just accept your self as you are right now?
• You chose to begin practicing self-love today?
• You decided to accept others as they are?
• You were to begin forgiving all those who have caused you pain or suffering?
• You stopped worrying about money, finances, loan payments and instead focused on all the “good” in your life?

Can you imagine how great your Christmas Holidays would be if you made those “what if” decisions?

What’s stopping you? Read more…

In my continuing series of the types of automatic negative thoughts we have that keep us stuck, I want to help you understand the words we think of and use; and how these words often keep us stuck in repetitive failure patterns.

Regularly, others tell me they have difficulty learning to become aware of, or catching their self limiting subconscious thoughts which sabotage their efforts to achieve. I can relate to their problem as I had great difficulty in understanding how I could be consciously working so hard to make positive changes, but yet my subconscious was resisting.

In this article, you are getting a “peek behind the curtain” so to speak.

You will begin seeing how easily you too can catch the previously un-noticed negatives running on automatic in your subconscious. More importantly, you will also learn how to neutralize these negatives to eliminate the power they have over you.

Let’s get started – first with a few examples of the “everything, everyone or nothing” words that help to keep us stuck: Read more…

By now, you have hopefully been catching your thoughts as you began predicting future outcomes and now see how the mind takes a thought and creates this negative feedback loop that just grows and grows.

Today, I want to introduce you to another type of automatic negative thought – mind reading.

We all do it and we all experience negative results from allowing it to happen.

I will use a very recent experience with my 4 year old daughter as a perfect example of “mind reading” in action.

We were in the DVD section at a major retailer looking for new kids movies. My daughter is a very happy child and she loves to sing, which is what she was doing while we were browsing.

The next isle over, there was a group of teens laughing and joking. My daughter became agitated and expressed that it was very rude of those kids to laugh at her. However, they were not laughing at her singing and they probably weren’t even aware of her presence.

Can you relate to this?

How many times have you “thought” you knew what someone else was thinking when in fact you weren’t even close? Read more…

I was recently contacted by Tara Springett who is the author of several self-help books, a Buddhist teacher and a fully qualified psychotherapist.

She has created an excellent resource to help others make their wish come true for 2011. Tara has enjoyed great success with her clients, and would like to share this success with a larger audience.

Tara’s words in the email she sent were: “I think your readers will resonate with my manifesting-your-dreams resource. It is new and completely free.”

She has graciously provided me with the programming code so I can share it with my readers. I have posted her resource immediately below this introduction – which allows you free (no opt-in) and immediate access to Tara’s interactive manifestation tool.

After you have used it, I would appreciate your feedback by posting a comment. You are welcome to come back and use it as often as you like.

Enjoy!

Please – post your comments below!

Material Disclosure: I have no affiliate nor reciprocal relationship with Tara Springett. I have not received coaching from Tara so I cannot testify as to the effectiveness of her coaching. I have, however, read some of her work and feel it is an excellent resource to help others. None of the links posted in this article are affiliate links and I will not receive compensation if you choose to avail your self of Tara’s services.

Self sabotage is the nagging little voice in your head that stops you from going after anything you really, really want.

For example, you see the woman/man of your dreams, but you just can’t seem to find the courage and make that initial contact.

Or, perhaps you’ve got a great business idea but all the “reasons” it won’t work keep popping into your conscious awareness.

So, what’s the problem here? Why are you stuck? What’s stopping you from reaching out, grabbing the bull by the horns and going for the wildest, most enjoyable ride through life you could possibly imagine?

Are you ready for this?

Read more…