Life With Gene

The holidays seem to bring out the best in some, but for many it appears to bring out the worst. Studies show that in spite of all the “feel-good” movies, Christmas Holidays are very stressful for most.

The entire marketing aspect of the Christmas Holidays and gift giving creates unwarranted fears and/or worries.

We have expectations about how others should act. We expect we should “receive” specific gifts. We stress over what to buy our loved ones – or worse yet we feel inadequate for not having the funds to buy someone special that “ultimate” gift.

I want to help you with this.

Ask your self “What if…”

• This Christmas you made the decision to just accept your self as you are right now?
• You chose to begin practicing self-love today?
• You decided to accept others as they are?
• You were to begin forgiving all those who have caused you pain or suffering?
• You stopped worrying about money, finances, loan payments and instead focused on all the “good” in your life?

Can you imagine how great your Christmas Holidays would be if you made those “what if” decisions?

What’s stopping you? Read more…

In my two previous posts, I wrote about “resistance” and how we get stuck in negative patterns. I explained why it is vitally important to begin catching the automatic negative thoughts as they appeared in your conscious awareness.

Because most of us are so conditioned to allow negative thinking to continue on automatic without ever catching those thoughts, it may seem like a difficult task to learn “how” to become consciously aware of the thinking patterns responsible for creating your current reality.

In the next few posts I will help you become familiar with some of the “types” of negative thought patterns. Armed with this knowledge, it then becomes much easier to catch the negativity currently running on auto pilot.

Predicting the Future:

When you look ahead and predict something bad, you are unknowingly creating the environment for it to happen. Read more…

Guest Post by Susan Russo

“Self-sabotage is when we say we want something and then go about making sure it doesn’t happen.” ~Alyce P. Cornyn-Selby~

Do you think a trained athlete goes into a game thinking, “I know I’m going to lose, I can just feel it.” Or, “I’ll never win this I’m just not as good as the others.” Or, “Who am I kidding, with my luck I’m going to lose.

No way! These people are not only trained in their field of expertise but they are “mentally” trained to prepare for the big events in their lives. They are mentally pumped up! They visualize peak performance. They see themselves winning. They master their mental skills so they perform at their best. They are in the “Zone.” Read more…

Self acceptance is vital to enjoying a healthy mind, body and spirit.

Do you accept yourself as you are right now?

Probably not! Chances are your self-criticism and self-judgment is quite severe. You might believe your not good enough, smart enough, handsome/beautiful enough, you’re out of shape or over weight, your too short or too tall, not educated, too angry and the list goes on forever.

Continuing reading and learn how to accept your self and what you will gain from it.

I easily remember my teenage years, when comparing myself to other boys I felt inadequate. I did not live up to my own expectations of the “ideal” size, shape, appearance and personality of other teenagers.

Even throughout much of my adult life I continued to judge myself based on others. Then I realized everyone was doing the same thing. We tend look at others to see what we lack in our own lives.

We look outside ourselves for validation and acceptance. This is a learned response from childhood. The biggest fear of a child is being abandoned – left alone.

Therefore, children will do whatever it takes to receive attention and feel accepted. Watch children as they play and you will notice they constantly look to their parents for approval and acceptance.

Knowing this information, how can it help you?

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