Life With Gene

Guest Post by Dr. Joe Rubino

Studies show that high self-esteem is the #1 ingredient essential for developing happiness, fulfillment, rich relationships, and overall success in life.

In the life of every child, usually sometime between birth and age 6, something happens to have the child doubt him or her self. Someone says or does something that has the child believe that he or she is flawed, unlovable, not worthy, imperfect.

This initial stressful incident is the first real realization that the child is not perfect and fails to measure up to society’s standards in some important way. The initial upset can be one of two types.

The first assault could be an unkind word from a peer or authority figure, a spanking, an insult, an argument, a bullying or name calling episode. It could occur as a direct result of something the child said or did that provoked an attack on his or her sense of worthiness or ability to fit in.

The second type of self-esteem diminishing episode can be as a result of the child misinterpreting someone’s words or actions to mean that the child is flawed, unlovable, or defective in some way. In such a case, no insult or demeaning connotation was intended. Read more…

Now This is really exciting news!

Tara Springett has just released her latest book – ADVANCED MANIFESTING

I have read an advance copy of this book and the information is – in my opinion – very powerful and extremely easy to apply.

You would be wise to pay attention to what Tara writes about. She is a Buddhist teacher, a fully qualified psychotherapist with post-graduate qualifications in gestalt therapy, body awareness therapy and trans-personal therapy and a published author.

Tara is not only my personal coach, but also a friend. I have spent years researching the self improvement industry and achieved a respectable level of success with what I learned.

However, when I first began working with Tara, I realized there was much more for me to learn. In the past I have successfully used techniques such as visualization, self-hypnosis, brainwave entrainment, EFT and so on.

Tara agrees these techniques play an important role in helping us to change and improve our lives, but…

There is a missing piece!

In Tara’ own words…

“In order to bring into existence what we desire we need to harness a much stronger power than our thoughts.”

Think of it like this… What you know about manifesting is like “fuel” for a rocket ship. You need that fuel to take you places most can’t even imagine.

However, before you can blast off, you need to “ignite” that fuel and get it to burn. The simple Buddhist practices Tara explains in her book are the “fire” that ignites what you already know to turbo charge your success.

You’ve no doubt heard about the law of attraction and you may have had a stab or two trying to put these teachings into practice. Maybe you had some success or maybe not. Perhaps you had success in the beginning and then could not repeat it.

Tara explains why so many are struggling to be happy. In her private coaching practice Tara’s clients have achieved seemingly impossible results with everything from relationship & financial problems to issues with physical or mental health.

This book shows you in detail the simple Buddhist techniques Tara learned to rid herself of internal struggle; improve her energetic vibration and attract pretty much anything she desires – from a great relationship, to improved health, inner happiness, a new home and financial success.

ADVANCED MANIFESTING reveals powerful Tibetan Buddhist practices to manifest your dreams. These techniques are highly effective and cannot be found in any other book about manifesting.

You will learn how to manifest from your very core – from the essence of who you really are. You are about to learn a simple system to bring good into your life through your heart – through love!

Tara now feels the world is “ready” to receive these Buddhist teachings and this is why she is revealing them now!

I highly recommend you grab yourself a copy of this book. At $14.95 it is probably the best investment you could possibly ever make in your future.

ADVANCE MANIFESTING is being launched on November 8th.

You can check out book and all the great bonus gifts offered by some well known and respected self improvement experts here:

ADVANCED MANIFESTING – Tibetan Buddhist Secrets For Fulfilling Your Dreams

Wishing you awesome success!

Gene

P.S…. Please SHARE THIS LIFE CHANGING INFORMATION. Tell your family and friends about this book. We are one and the more we help others, the more we help ourselves.

P.S.S. It doesn’t matter if you are struggling with relationships, financial worries, physical or mental health or simply feel something is missing in your life and you just can’t figure out what it is – this book is for you!

Here again is the link of opportunity:

www.best-self-help-sites.com/Buddha

My new friend Lisa Dorey is having a friendly contest in which you cannot lose.

First, when you sign up for her pre-launch competition before Oct. 30th, you get a chance to win either a copy of her new book or a complimentary healing session.

Second, even if you don’t win the competition, you get to download a sample copy of her ebook. So either way – you win!

Personally, I would love to win the “complimentary healing session” from Lisa. It doesn’t matter how much we learn, grow and change, there is always room to continue moving forward.

I’ve been very fortunate as I have witnessed first hand and enjoyed the positive results I achieved from healing sessions from a few different gifted individuals. If you are lucky enough to win, I would love for you to come back here and post your comments about your experience.

Let me tell you about the book and a little about Lisa Dorey, the Angel Interpreter.:

If you are searching for ways to enhance your spiritual connection, or recognize your need to try something different to finally get past blocks you have been struggling with for a long time, then you should read “The Angel Stories”.

Lisa has noticed that the majority of her clients are facing very similar challenges in their life; such as self doubt, not feeling good enough, or struggles with money, or relationships.

Lisa connects with Archangels and the Divine Feminine to bring her clients a supreme and beautiful experience, where they enhance their own spiritual connection. The sessions take the form of stories told through metaphor, which have great significance for the client.

They are similar to guided meditations, but are actually deep energy healing sessions of a very powerful nature, which bring fantastic results. In the words of one of her clients “this is deep and fast”.

To get this exquisite healing into the hands of as many people as possible, she has written her book, The Angel Stories, which is a collection of the healing stories she has channeled.

Readers have already commented on how, just by reading the book, or listening to the audio book, they have experienced wonderful sensations of peace, support and enhanced spiritual connection.

If you want to learn how to bring the Archangels around you to support you in your own challenges, this book is for you. Each story is unique and very memorable, supporting you long after the original reading of it.

The book is available in various formats as outlined below. If you want to enter the competition go to her website TheAngelStories.co.uk where you can join the competition.

You can’t win if you don’t participate!

Remember now, you could win a copy of the book, and one lucky winner will get the chance to experience a healing session for them self – their very own Angel Story.

Right after I hit the “Publish” button on this, I am racing there myself to get the sample copy and enter the competition. Good luck!

Here’s the link again: TheAngelStories.co.uk. Enjoy!

In my continuing series of the types of automatic negative thoughts we have that keep us stuck, I want to help you understand the words we think of and use; and how these words often keep us stuck in repetitive failure patterns.

Regularly, others tell me they have difficulty learning to become aware of, or catching their self limiting subconscious thoughts which sabotage their efforts to achieve. I can relate to their problem as I had great difficulty in understanding how I could be consciously working so hard to make positive changes, but yet my subconscious was resisting.

In this article, you are getting a “peek behind the curtain” so to speak.

You will begin seeing how easily you too can catch the previously un-noticed negatives running on automatic in your subconscious. More importantly, you will also learn how to neutralize these negatives to eliminate the power they have over you.

Let’s get started – first with a few examples of the “everything, everyone or nothing” words that help to keep us stuck: Read more…

The blame game is a dangerous one to play! There are negative side affects you would be wise to learn about.

I was pretty good at blaming others before I understood how this automatic negative response adversely affected me – and I am confident as you read, you will see how you too have fallen into this trap.

When we blame others, we are passing responsibility for our life, our own happiness, on to others. In simple terms, we are now appearing as the “victim” of circumstances beyond our control.

Let’s be realistic. No one wants to appear to be the “bad guy or girl”. Blaming someone else feeds our ego and gives us the righteous feeling that we are okay and it is the other person who screwed up our life.

However, by taking this approach, we remain a victim and are powerless to make any positive changes. On the other hand, in taking responsibility for ourselves, we are empowered to make positive changes. Read more…

By now, you have hopefully been catching your thoughts as you began predicting future outcomes and now see how the mind takes a thought and creates this negative feedback loop that just grows and grows.

Today, I want to introduce you to another type of automatic negative thought – mind reading.

We all do it and we all experience negative results from allowing it to happen.

I will use a very recent experience with my 4 year old daughter as a perfect example of “mind reading” in action.

We were in the DVD section at a major retailer looking for new kids movies. My daughter is a very happy child and she loves to sing, which is what she was doing while we were browsing.

The next isle over, there was a group of teens laughing and joking. My daughter became agitated and expressed that it was very rude of those kids to laugh at her. However, they were not laughing at her singing and they probably weren’t even aware of her presence.

Can you relate to this?

How many times have you “thought” you knew what someone else was thinking when in fact you weren’t even close? Read more…

In my two previous posts, I wrote about “resistance” and how we get stuck in negative patterns. I explained why it is vitally important to begin catching the automatic negative thoughts as they appeared in your conscious awareness.

Because most of us are so conditioned to allow negative thinking to continue on automatic without ever catching those thoughts, it may seem like a difficult task to learn “how” to become consciously aware of the thinking patterns responsible for creating your current reality.

In the next few posts I will help you become familiar with some of the “types” of negative thought patterns. Armed with this knowledge, it then becomes much easier to catch the negativity currently running on auto pilot.

Predicting the Future:

When you look ahead and predict something bad, you are unknowingly creating the environment for it to happen. Read more…

We unknowingly create our own internal resistance by “trying” to create our lives on a surface level instead of from within.

In simple terms, we waste so much energy trying to consciously figure out what to do and how to do it. Then we view our reality based on all the judgments about what we don’t have or want to get rid.

Desire, anger and fear are at the root of all unconscious patterns that block your ability to create a new reality. Desire coming from ego (as opposed to authentic desire) creates a state of fear you won’t be successful or perhaps even fear you will be, and this triggers anxiety or anger about the details of how something is going to manifest or what’s not manifesting.

This then becomes your negative feedback loop, constantly reinforcing the self limiting thoughts and beliefs which keep you stuck.

The goal is to change your negative, automatic feedback loop so thoughts and emotions are in harmony and moving you to a better place.

I have discovered it is the “simple” things we do, the small steps we take that make a huge impact on the rest of our life. When we make small shifts in our energy patterns, we can change our entire experience. Our whole reality shifts and the entire way we understand how we are solely responsible for what we create becomes clear and alive. Read more…

Do you sometimes find your emotions getting the better of you?

Is life not working out the way you planned?

Have you already tried self improvement techniques such as affirmations, visualization, goal setting, meditation or self-hypnosis – and you’re still stuck?

If you answered yes to those questions or any similar ones that might come to mind, then listen up because I am confident the information in this 2 part post is really going to help you break free.

In my private coaching I find the most difficult concept for others to grasp is how we “resist.” I believe resistance is the largest stumbling block for anyone working at achieving their dreams and goals.

Think about this for a moment, if you have been trying to improve your relationships, income, health, etc. and you are not seeing any measurable results, obviously there is something “blocking” you from making that shift and moving forward.

Merriam-Websters dictionary defines resistance as:

• an opposing or retarding force.
• a psychological defense mechanism wherein a patient rejects, denies, or otherwise opposes the therapeutic efforts of a psychotherapist.

Example of RESISTANCE
1. They have shown a stubborn resistance to change. Read more…

Have you ever focused on self love?

I consistently see others struggling to set their goals, trying to figure out exactly what they want to accomplish. However, have you ever taken the time to figure out what it is you really want to achieve?

What is the goal behind your goals?

To begin, do this very important, but simple exercise:

Take a few minutes and look at all your goals. Now, ask your self, “Why do I want those particular goals?”

Look for the reason behind the surface reason as to why those goals are important to you. For example, let’s say one of your goals is for a new house. Why do you want a new house?

Usual examples might be something like “To feel good; to impress others; to be comfortable and so on.” I want you to really dig. Get to the core of why you want each goal.

If you dig deep enough, you will discover the true goal which hides behind all your other goals really comes down to this – finding love and happiness. Read more…