The holidays seem to bring out the best in some, but for many it appears to bring out the worst. Studies show that in spite of all the “feel-good” movies, Christmas Holidays are very stressful for most.
The entire marketing aspect of the Christmas Holidays and gift giving creates unwarranted fears and/or worries.
We have expectations about how others should act. We expect we should “receive” specific gifts. We stress over what to buy our loved ones – or worse yet we feel inadequate for not having the funds to buy someone special that “ultimate” gift.
I want to help you with this.
Ask your self “What if…”
This Christmas you made the decision to just accept your self as you are right now?
You chose to begin practicing self-love today?
You decided to accept others as they are?
You were to begin forgiving all those who have caused you pain or suffering?
You stopped worrying about money, finances, loan payments and instead focused on all the “good” in your life?
Can you imagine how great your Christmas Holidays would be if you made those “what if” decisions?
I consistently see others struggling to set their goals, trying to figure out exactly what they want to accomplish. However, have you ever taken the time to figure out what it is you really want to achieve?
What is the goal behind your goals?
To begin, do this very important, but simple exercise:
Take a few minutes and look at all your goals. Now, ask your self, “Why do I want those particular goals?”
Look for the reason behind the surface reason as to why those goals are important to you. For example, let’s say one of your goals is for a new house. Why do you want a new house?
Usual examples might be something like “To feel good; to impress others; to be comfortable and so on.” I want you to really dig. Get to the core of why you want each goal.
If you dig deep enough, you will discover the true goal which hides behind all your other goals really comes down to this – finding love and happiness.Read more…
I have given many talks on the topic of finding love and creating a deeply satisfying relationship. I always start by telling people that the most important thing for finding true love is to WANT a loving relationship with all our heart.
We need to admit that we are missing something and deeply desire someone to fill in our sense of deficiency. In other words, we need to accept and own our need for a relationship. This seems like a very common sense thing to advise – almost banal – but no sooner have I said these things that many people in the audience will object.
People will tell me that they do not feel deficient, that they do not ‘need’ a relationship and that they believe that they can only find a relationship when they feel whole and complete in yourself. Read more…
Relationships, especially with family, are responsible for more love and happiness than money or financial prosperity could ever produce.
They can also be a source of emotional pain and suffering which again money can’t solve.
Here we are in February, with Valentine’s Day quickly approaching. What does this day mean to you?
Do you get excited for the opportunity to shower your mate with gifts or perhaps go out for a romantic dinner with the hopes of casting a shadow over the past years problems?
It started out so wonderfully. You met, dated, fell in love and both of you spent probably the first six months to a year doing everything possible to impress your new found mate.
Happily you made plans for a perfect life together, filled with love, passion and success. You worked hard and saved your money for the home of your dreams, new furniture and perhaps a new car.
Maybe children were born, adding more love to your life while simultaneously creating financial strain on the budget. The love and attention for each other became focused on the children.
What happened to your relationship anyway? Read more…
We make life far more difficult than it really is meant to be. It took me over 30 years of learning to discover there is a much better way to live.
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