Life With Gene

In my continuing series of the types of automatic negative thoughts we have that keep us stuck, I want to help you understand the words we think of and use; and how these words often keep us stuck in repetitive failure patterns.

Regularly, others tell me they have difficulty learning to become aware of, or catching their self limiting subconscious thoughts which sabotage their efforts to achieve. I can relate to their problem as I had great difficulty in understanding how I could be consciously working so hard to make positive changes, but yet my subconscious was resisting.

In this article, you are getting a “peek behind the curtain” so to speak.

You will begin seeing how easily you too can catch the previously un-noticed negatives running on automatic in your subconscious. More importantly, you will also learn how to neutralize these negatives to eliminate the power they have over you.

Let’s get started – first with a few examples of the “everything, everyone or nothing” words that help to keep us stuck: Read more…

Guest Post by Tara Springett

People feel stressed for several reasons. They may experience conflicts and traumatic experiences of loss; which inflict massive amounts of stress on their lives. In most cases this type of stress subsides as time passes and life slowly returns to normality.

However, there are many people who suffer from chronic stress that is not caused by any acute trauma or conflict. It is this chronic stress that we will be looking at in this article.

Why are people chronically stressed?

Most people would think chronic stress is due to having too much work and too little time. In my experience the answer is not quite as straightforward. Yes, people who are stressed often have a diary bulging with urgent appointments with very little space between them. And if they are not at one of these meetings their personal life is chock-a-block with a massive amount of things which do not allow for a minute’s rest.

Mind you, I am not talking about single mothers with five children who need to have two jobs to make ends meet. I am talking about chronically stressed people who work normal job hours and have normal-sized families.

Why is it that so many people feel incredibly stressed in such a situation?

In order to find the answer we have to look a little deeper than time management and organization tools. Read more…

Guest Post by Susan Russo

“Self-sabotage is when we say we want something and then go about making sure it doesn’t happen.” ~Alyce P. Cornyn-Selby~

Do you think a trained athlete goes into a game thinking, “I know I’m going to lose, I can just feel it.” Or, “I’ll never win this I’m just not as good as the others.” Or, “Who am I kidding, with my luck I’m going to lose.

No way! These people are not only trained in their field of expertise but they are “mentally” trained to prepare for the big events in their lives. They are mentally pumped up! They visualize peak performance. They see themselves winning. They master their mental skills so they perform at their best. They are in the “Zone.” Read more…

Guest Article – by Dalia Ashraf Mounir Ibrahim

How do you perceive yourself?

Are you brimming with self confidence; mentally and emotionally strong; feeling adequate with your intellectual capacity?

Do you speak your mind freely without fearing what others might think or say about you? Do you settle for less than respect?

How much on a scale from one to ten do you believe in yourself?

“A successful person is one who can lay a firm foundation with the bricks that others throw at him or her.” ~David Brinkley~

Many get emotionally devastated when someone rejects them or disagrees.

They let go of what they believe in and start believing what others say. They dig a deep hole and get stuck in it. They’re stuck because they allowed seeds of negativity planted by others to grow and begin to agree with what others have said.

This type of thinking can only lead you down a path of self-judgment and self-criticism; creating unwanted feelings that you’re just not good enough – inadequate. Read more…

Would you consider meditation a waste of time?

Many would say yes!

Time is one of the few commodities we cannot save or store. Everyone is allotted 24 hours in a day and most of us have busy lifestyles with little time to lose.

It would appear spending ½ to one hour sitting perfectly still doing nothing might easily fall into the category of a useless activity devouring precious time.

A Zen practitioner meditates between 6 and 8 hours each day for 20 to 25 years before they permanently balance the left and right hemispheres of the brain

I don’t know about you, but I don’t have 20 to 25 years to become “enlightened.” I can barely squeeze out an extra hour per day, let alone 6 to 8.

Why would anyone even consider meditation? Read more…

Does it seem like your will power is non-existent? Are you having difficulty eliminating bad habits, such as smoking or over eating?

If you are discouraged with your apparent lack of will power, this may be the most important information you could possibly get your hands on.

Previously, the medical community believed the human brain consisted of the conscious and subconscious. More recently, scientific human brain research has proven this to be inaccurate.

Tests done on human subjects actually prove we think in six areas of our brains simultaneously. While asleep our mind still functions in five of these areas.

This means our conscious thinking is actually only 1/6th of our brain power and the non-conscious portion is actually 5/6th.

This is like having a tug of war with your habits. One of you is pulling for self improvement, change and positive outcomes. On the other end of the rope there are 5 of you with hidden, pre-programmed subconscious beliefs keeping you stuck right where you are now.

No matter how strong someone’s will power, consciously trying to change is more than likely than to fail. Read more…