Life With Gene

Word Power

In my continuing series of the types of automatic negative thoughts we have that keep us stuck, I want to help you understand the words we think of and use; and how these words often keep us stuck in repetitive failure patterns.

Regularly, others tell me they have difficulty learning to become aware of, or catching their self limiting subconscious thoughts which sabotage their efforts to achieve. I can relate to their problem as I had great difficulty in understanding how I could be consciously working so hard to make positive changes, but yet my subconscious was resisting.

In this article, you are getting a “peek behind the curtain” so to speak.

You will begin seeing how easily you too can catch the previously un-noticed negatives running on automatic in your subconscious. More importantly, you will also learn how to neutralize these negatives to eliminate the power they have over you.

Let’s get started – first with a few examples of the “everything, everyone or nothing” words that help to keep us stuck: Read more…

The Blame Game

The blame game is a dangerous one to play! There are negative side affects you would be wise to learn about.

I was pretty good at blaming others before I understood how this automatic negative response adversely affected me – and I am confident as you read, you will see how you too have fallen into this trap.

When we blame others, we are passing responsibility for our life, our own happiness, on to others. In simple terms, we are now appearing as the “victim” of circumstances beyond our control.

Let’s be realistic. No one wants to appear to be the “bad guy or girl”. Blaming someone else feeds our ego and gives us the righteous feeling that we are okay and it is the other person who screwed up our life.

However, by taking this approach, we remain a victim and are powerless to make any positive changes. On the other hand, in taking responsibility for ourselves, we are empowered to make positive changes. Read more…

Mind Reading

By now, you have hopefully been catching your thoughts as you began predicting future outcomes and now see how the mind takes a thought and creates this negative feedback loop that just grows and grows.

Today, I want to introduce you to another type of automatic negative thought – mind reading.

We all do it and we all experience negative results from allowing it to happen.

I will use a very recent experience with my 4 year old daughter as a perfect example of “mind reading” in action.

We were in the DVD section at a major retailer looking for new kids movies. My daughter is a very happy child and she loves to sing, which is what she was doing while we were browsing.

The next isle over, there was a group of teens laughing and joking. My daughter became agitated and expressed that it was very rude of those kids to laugh at her. However, they were not laughing at her singing and they probably weren’t even aware of her presence.

Can you relate to this?

How many times have you “thought” you knew what someone else was thinking when in fact you weren’t even close? Read more…

Struggle & Resistance

In simple terms, we waste so much energy trying to consciously figure out what to do and how to do it. Then we view our reality based on all the judgments about what we don’t have or want to get rid.

Desire, anger and fear are at the root of all unconscious patterns that block your ability to create a new reality. Desire coming from ego (as opposed to authentic desire) creates a state of fear you won’t be successful or perhaps even fear you will be, and this triggers anxiety or anger about the details of how something is going to manifest or what’s not manifesting.

This then becomes your negative feedback loop, constantly reinforcing the self limiting thoughts and beliefs which keep you stuck.

The goal is to change your negative, automatic feedback loop so thoughts and emotions are in harmony and moving you to a better place.

I have discovered it is the “simple” things we do, the small steps we take that make a huge impact on the rest of our life. When we make small shifts in our energy patterns, we can change our entire experience. Our whole reality shifts and the entire way we understand how we are solely responsible for what we create becomes clear and alive. Read more…

Letting Go Of Resistance

Do you sometimes find your emotions getting the better of you?

Is life not working out the way you planned?

Have you already tried self improvement techniques such as affirmations, visualization, goal setting, meditation or self-hypnosis – and you’re still stuck?

If you answered yes to those questions or any similar ones that might come to mind, then listen up because I am confident the information in this 2 part post is really going to help you break free.

In my private coaching I find the most difficult concept for others to grasp is how we “resist.” I believe resistance is the largest stumbling block for anyone working at achieving their dreams and goals.

Think about this for a moment, if you have been trying to improve your relationships, income, health, etc. and you are not seeing any measurable results, obviously there is something “blocking” you from making that shift and moving forward.

Merriam-Websters dictionary defines resistance as:

• an opposing or retarding force.
• a psychological defense mechanism wherein a patient rejects, denies, or otherwise opposes the therapeutic efforts of a psychotherapist.

Example of RESISTANCE
1. They have shown a stubborn resistance to change. Read more…

Guest Post – by Natalie Louise

Impostor Syndrome

Do you have an underlying fear that one day someone is going to push through your crowd of admirers, take you by the arm, and then insist on screaming to every one in sundry that all your success is a mistake, you are a fraud.. you are, in fact, an Impostor?

The Impostor Syndrome is when you have that feeling that you haven’t earned your success – that your success or achievements are the result of sheer luck or being in the right place at the right time.

You are always worried that others will discover that you really don’t know what you are doing – that you’re a phony.

It’s a feeling of being fake. Irrespective of your successes, there is still a pit of your stomach feeling that people find out that you are not as successful, smart, talented, good, or anything else positive, as they think you are.

The dread that you are going to be exposed as being an impostor or fake is always present. Your undercurrent of self-doubt within yourself makes it hard for you to want to draw attention to yourself. The more success and therefore more attention you bring yourself, the more vulnerable you are to being unmasked.

The feeling that you somehow don’t deserve your success, and you feel as though you are a fake, is chronic self doubt. Read more…

self-sabotage

For example, you see the woman/man of your dreams, but you just can’t seem to find the courage and make that initial contact.

Or, perhaps you’ve got a great business idea but all the “reasons” it won’t work keep popping into your conscious awareness.

So, what’s the problem here? Why are you stuck? What’s stopping you from reaching out, grabbing the bull by the horns and going for the wildest, most enjoyable ride through life you could possibly imagine?

Are you ready for this?

Read more…