Foot Steps
Most of us have “assumed the worst” in a situation, only to discover later our thoughts were totally wrong. Unfortunately, our assumptions led us down a path that ended in conflict.
Take a few moments to think of how you have “assumed” the worst and more importantly, how your incorrect assumption led to conflict.
Recall something recent where you didn’t get an expected phone call or perhaps your child or mate didn’t show up when they were supposed to.
Maybe your employer made a comment or gave you a “look” that got your thinking about the worst.
Chances are, your subconscious began working overtime, feeding you all kinds of negative thoughts such as:
- Why are they late? I hope nothing bad has happened.
- What if the person I was expecting to call didn’t want to talk with or see me anymore?
- Maybe the expected party was in an accident.
- What if my boss is disappointed with my work and wants to fire me?
I’m sure you can easily recall many times where you feared the worst, only to discover your thoughts were not true.
At first, you might go through a lot of “fear” thoughts, thinking the worst and worrying about the outcome. Read more…
Word Power
In my continuing series of the types of automatic negative thoughts we have that keep us stuck, I want to help you understand the words we think of and use; and how these words often keep us stuck in repetitive failure patterns.
Regularly, others tell me they have difficulty learning to become aware of, or catching their self limiting subconscious thoughts which sabotage their efforts to achieve. I can relate to their problem as I had great difficulty in understanding how I could be consciously working so hard to make positive changes, but yet my subconscious was resisting.
In this article, you are getting a “peek behind the curtain” so to speak.
You will begin seeing how easily you too can catch the previously un-noticed negatives running on automatic in your subconscious. More importantly, you will also learn how to neutralize these negatives to eliminate the power they have over you.
Let’s get started – first with a few examples of the “everything, everyone or nothing” words that help to keep us stuck: Read more…
The Blame Game
The blame game is a dangerous one to play! There are negative side affects you would be wise to learn about.
I was pretty good at blaming others before I understood how this automatic negative response adversely affected me – and I am confident as you read, you will see how you too have fallen into this trap.
When we blame others, we are passing responsibility for our life, our own happiness, on to others. In simple terms, we are now appearing as the “victim” of circumstances beyond our control.
Let’s be realistic. No one wants to appear to be the “bad guy or girl”. Blaming someone else feeds our ego and gives us the righteous feeling that we are okay and it is the other person who screwed up our life.
However, by taking this approach, we remain a victim and are powerless to make any positive changes. On the other hand, in taking responsibility for ourselves, we are empowered to make positive changes. Read more…
Struggle & Resistance
We unknowingly create our own internal resistance by
“trying” to create our lives on a surface level instead of from within.
In simple terms, we waste so much energy trying to consciously figure out what to do and how to do it. Then we view our reality based on all the judgments about what we don’t have or want to get rid.
Desire, anger and fear are at the root of all unconscious patterns that block your ability to create a new reality. Desire coming from ego (as opposed to authentic desire) creates a state of fear you won’t be successful or perhaps even fear you will be, and this triggers anxiety or anger about the details of how something is going to manifest or what’s not manifesting.
This then becomes your negative feedback loop, constantly reinforcing the self limiting thoughts and beliefs which keep you stuck.
The goal is to change your negative, automatic feedback loop so thoughts and emotions are in harmony and moving you to a better place.
I have discovered it is the “simple” things we do, the small steps we take that make a huge impact on the rest of our life. When we make small shifts in our energy patterns, we can change our entire experience. Our whole reality shifts and the entire way we understand how we are solely responsible for what we create becomes clear and alive. Read more…
Guest Article – by Dalia Ashraf Mounir Ibrahim
How do you perceive yourself?
Are you brimming with self confidence; mentally and emotionally strong; feeling adequate with your intellectual capacity?
Do you speak your mind freely without fearing what others might think or say about you? Do you settle for less than respect?
How much on a scale from one to ten do you believe in yourself?
“A successful person is one who can lay a firm foundation with the bricks that others throw at him or her.” ~David Brinkley~
Many get emotionally devastated when someone rejects them or disagrees.
They let go of what they believe in and start believing what others say. They dig a deep hole and get stuck in it. They’re stuck because they allowed seeds of negativity planted by others to grow and begin to agree with what others have said.
This type of thinking can only lead you down a path of self-judgment and self-criticism; creating unwanted feelings that you’re just not good enough – inadequate. Read more…
Your subconscious programming is mainly the result of genetic DNA passed on from ancestors and your childhood training. To a lesser degree, the subconscious is influenced by your experiences.
On both this blog and The Free Self Help Tutorial at my website I write extensively about how this programming is responsible for why we are stuck; continuously repeating negative patterns.
Much of my information is based on scientific brain research and the teachings of those more knowledgable than myself.
Every once in a while, I gain access to information that eloquently explains how our subconscious beliefs result in where we are today – and more importantly where we will be in the future.
Today, I watched an eye opening video where Bob Proctor let’s us in on the “real” secret to life and why we get stuck.
I highly recommend this video and suggest you go watch it now, before Bob decides to take it down.
Go watch Bob’s video now!
Today more often than not we are bombarded with “expert advice”. Some of it is excellent, while much of it is useless.
So, who should you listen to?
“Believe nothing, no matter where you read it, or who said it – even if I have said it -unless it agrees with your own reason and your own common sense.”
~Buddha~
There is research or surveys done by professionals, scientific community, the medical profession, personal development experts and the list goes on.
Look a little deeper and you will often notice totally opposing opinions, beliefs or proof on any given topic. Read more…
self-sabotage
Self sabotage is the nagging little voice in your head that stops you from going after anything you really, really want.
For example, you see the woman/man of your dreams, but you just can’t seem to find the courage and make that initial contact.
Or, perhaps you’ve got a great business idea but all the “reasons” it won’t work keep popping into your conscious awareness.
So, what’s the problem here? Why are you stuck? What’s stopping you from reaching out, grabbing the bull by the horns and going for the wildest, most enjoyable ride through life you could possibly imagine?
Are you ready for this?
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There are times when perfection is something worthy of being praised. If you purchased a new product – for example a car – you would be thrilled if it was delivered free of defects in both quality and workmanship.
However, this same perfectionist attitude when applied to life leads to a host of self limiting thoughts, beliefs and attitudes – the most dangerous being intolerance.
On a global scale there is no shortage of apparent problems. Special interest groups and politicians are on a mission to eliminate these problems. With every new law passed in the supposed interest of society we sacrifice more freedom.
Depending on your age, maybe you can relate to this following example. In the province of Ontario (Canada) I received my driver’s license at 16 years of age. This allowed me to not only drive my own car to school, but afforded me the opportunity to work part time after school and on weekends.
This helped me learn the value of a good work ethics and improve my popularity. I also enjoyed higher self-esteem and self confidence – to name only a few of the positive outcomes.
However, due to problems with teenage drinking and driving and the public’s pressure to make our country a “safer” place to live, the laws were changed. Now teenagers endure a lengthy, graduated licensing program which now takes years to complete – and robs the youth of today from enjoying the same freedoms I experienced.
The very same people who had their license after turning 16 are now intolerant of other teenagers being afforded the opportunity to learn about life for themselves. Because of a small percentage of teenagers drinking and driving, all teenagers were branded as irresponsible and therefore deemed not worthy.
We, as a society are trying to child proof our lives!
Read more…
We make life far more difficult than it really is meant to be. It took me over 30 years of learning to discover there is a much better way to live.
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