Life With Gene

Most of us have “assumed the worst” in a situation, only to discover later our thoughts were totally wrong. Unfortunately, our assumptions led us down a path that ended in conflict.

Take a few moments to think of how you have “assumed” the worst and more importantly, how your incorrect assumption led to conflict.

Recall something recent where you didn’t get an expected phone call or perhaps your child or mate didn’t show up when they were supposed to.

Maybe your employer made a comment or gave you a “look” that got your thinking about the worst.

Chances are, your subconscious began working overtime, feeding you all kinds of negative thoughts such as:

• Why are they late? I hope nothing bad has happened.
• What if the person I was expecting to call didn’t want to talk with or see me anymore?
• Maybe the expected party was in an accident.
• What if my boss is disappointed with my work and wants to fire me?

I’m sure you can easily recall many times where you feared the worst, only to discover your thoughts were not true.

At first, you might go through a lot of “fear” thoughts, thinking the worst and worrying about the outcome. Read more…

The holidays seem to bring out the best in some, but for many it appears to bring out the worst. Studies show that in spite of all the “feel-good” movies, Christmas Holidays are very stressful for most.

The entire marketing aspect of the Christmas Holidays and gift giving creates unwarranted fears and/or worries.

We have expectations about how others should act. We expect we should “receive” specific gifts. We stress over what to buy our loved ones – or worse yet we feel inadequate for not having the funds to buy someone special that “ultimate” gift.

I want to help you with this.

Ask your self “What if…”

• This Christmas you made the decision to just accept your self as you are right now?
• You chose to begin practicing self-love today?
• You decided to accept others as they are?
• You were to begin forgiving all those who have caused you pain or suffering?
• You stopped worrying about money, finances, loan payments and instead focused on all the “good” in your life?

Can you imagine how great your Christmas Holidays would be if you made those “what if” decisions?

What’s stopping you? Read more…

In my two previous posts, I wrote about “resistance” and how we get stuck in negative patterns. I explained why it is vitally important to begin catching the automatic negative thoughts as they appeared in your conscious awareness.

Because most of us are so conditioned to allow negative thinking to continue on automatic without ever catching those thoughts, it may seem like a difficult task to learn “how” to become consciously aware of the thinking patterns responsible for creating your current reality.

In the next few posts I will help you become familiar with some of the “types” of negative thought patterns. Armed with this knowledge, it then becomes much easier to catch the negativity currently running on auto pilot.

Predicting the Future:

When you look ahead and predict something bad, you are unknowingly creating the environment for it to happen. Read more…

Have you ever focused on self love?

I consistently see others struggling to set their goals, trying to figure out exactly what they want to accomplish. However, have you ever taken the time to figure out what it is you really want to achieve?

What is the goal behind your goals?

To begin, do this very important, but simple exercise:

Take a few minutes and look at all your goals. Now, ask your self, “Why do I want those particular goals?”

Look for the reason behind the surface reason as to why those goals are important to you. For example, let’s say one of your goals is for a new house. Why do you want a new house?

Usual examples might be something like “To feel good; to impress others; to be comfortable and so on.” I want you to really dig. Get to the core of why you want each goal.

If you dig deep enough, you will discover the true goal which hides behind all your other goals really comes down to this – finding love and happiness. Read more…

Here’s a humorous video from Colin Pearce where he tells the story of a guy trying to get a job as the bell ringer.

Enjoy!

Guest post by Tara Springett

Far too often I see clients suffering from mild to severe forms of depression. While people get depressed for many reasons, depression self-help is more straightforward than many may imagine.

Many of my clients have endured tragic experiences of abuse, loss and trauma in their past and most believe it is those experiences that are to blame for their present depression.

While I have the greatest empathy for the pain that they have felt (being a survivor of child abuse myself) I do not agree that it is the experiences of trauma and loss ‘as such’ that is causing the depression.

I have found it is the feelings of resentment and holding a grudge that have arisen from these experiences and linger on to the present day, which are causing the depression.

Allow me to explain:

I have found (in myself and others) that in most cases of depression, people foster more or less conscious grudges against others from their past who they feel have harmed them. Read more…

Are your emotions getting the better of you?

Do you sometimes feel like you are stuck in a negative cycle, with no end in sight to the emotional suffering?

Then read on to discover how simple it can actually be to change your emotions.

Psychology Today recently printed an online article called “Action Creates Emotion” with the subtitle “Want to change how you’re feeling? Change what you’re doing.”

This is a very interesting article as it points out previous beliefs that emotion creates behavior are incorrect and in fact, behavior shapes our emotion.

The psychologist/philosopher William James was one of the first theorists to notice this counter-intuitive process. He believed that emotions arise out of the bodily actions we take in response to what is happening in our lives.

It is also important to note from the article, the comment “Human beings, prone as they are to prefer immediate rewards, often respond to discomfort by withdrawal and avoidance. Read more…

I don’t know about you, but sometimes I get soooo wrapped up in trying to improve myself, I forget to have fun and enjoy life.

My wife is a Filipina and the recent tragedy which hit the Philippines really made me think about how truly fortunate we are to be living in North America.

With the this post, I am hoping to accomplish two things. The first is to remind you that regardless of what irritations you are currently facing in life, by comparison to many others in this world, they are probably minor.

My second wish is for you to watch the brief video below, then follow your heart.

I believe we are all one. Watching this news unfold brought tears to my eyes. Fortunately, my in-laws are all safe; for which I am truly thankful.

If you have family that was not so lucky, my heart goes out to you and your loved ones.

Energy healing has proven to be both a wild and wonderful ride for me as I made my way through some strong negative emotions.

My entire family with the exception of my mother has anger issues. It would be easy to blame my father for passing on intense anger and rage. Fortunately I have learned to take responsibility for my own emotional well-being.

Having the desire to remain under control when feeling anger, I began suppressing the negative feelings. It was a long and difficult struggle and most of the time I was successful. Unfortunately I still endured rare outbursts of anger.

My desire for self-control and staying calm was intense. I was tired of destroying friendships and relationships. However, I never would have dreamed that my quest for self-control would result numbness to positive emotions such as joy and laughter. I felt like a zombie, unable to express any emotion whatsoever. Read more…