Life With Gene

Letting go of negative emotions created by our thoughts and beliefs has problems you will more than likely encounter – regardless of the releasing technique you use.

I urge you to read this material, think about it and follow my suggestions to help make emotional releasing work for you.

How Habits Are Formed:

The following explanation is a distilled version of what I have learned reading information from some of the world’s foremost brain researchers.

The example I will use is the emotion “anger” but this information can be applied to any unwanted habits or thought patterns.

When we witness anger repeatedly as a child; usually from a parent, we learn their behavior.

In the beginning, there is no neuron group associated with anger. The more we see this, the more it becomes part of our thoughts.

As we continually experience the anger, it then becomes a part of us. The neurons in our brain associated with the emotion of anger continue to grow. Read more…

Take a moment and think about your goals.

Chances are good the images that come to mind are along the lines of your ideal mate, dream home, new car, money in the bank, or your career.

Ask yourself this: “why do I want these goals?”

If you are honest with your self, you can easily see that all goals have only one true purpose – to make you happy!

I believe this is one of the reasons why so many struggle with success. That is, we mistakenly believe if we “have” something, it will lead to our happiness.

Actually, this is a backward approach to goal achievement. You see, if you are “happy”, achieving your tangible goals is no longer a challenge.

When you are focused on being happy right now, you are no longer functioning from a position of lack. Actually, you have eliminated your internal struggle and resistance to success and are now sending out good energetic vibrations which helps tremendously to attract all the other “stuff” that you had previously been lacking. Read more…

Most of us have “assumed the worst” in a situation, only to discover later our thoughts were totally wrong. Unfortunately, our assumptions led us down a path that ended in conflict.

Take a few moments to think of how you have “assumed” the worst and more importantly, how your incorrect assumption led to conflict.

Recall something recent where you didn’t get an expected phone call or perhaps your child or mate didn’t show up when they were supposed to.

Maybe your employer made a comment or gave you a “look” that got your thinking about the worst.

Chances are, your subconscious began working overtime, feeding you all kinds of negative thoughts such as:

• Why are they late? I hope nothing bad has happened.
• What if the person I was expecting to call didn’t want to talk with or see me anymore?
• Maybe the expected party was in an accident.
• What if my boss is disappointed with my work and wants to fire me?

I’m sure you can easily recall many times where you feared the worst, only to discover your thoughts were not true.

At first, you might go through a lot of “fear” thoughts, thinking the worst and worrying about the outcome. Read more…

The holidays seem to bring out the best in some, but for many it appears to bring out the worst. Studies show that in spite of all the “feel-good” movies, Christmas Holidays are very stressful for most.

The entire marketing aspect of the Christmas Holidays and gift giving creates unwarranted fears and/or worries.

We have expectations about how others should act. We expect we should “receive” specific gifts. We stress over what to buy our loved ones – or worse yet we feel inadequate for not having the funds to buy someone special that “ultimate” gift.

I want to help you with this.

Ask your self “What if…”

• This Christmas you made the decision to just accept your self as you are right now?
• You chose to begin practicing self-love today?
• You decided to accept others as they are?
• You were to begin forgiving all those who have caused you pain or suffering?
• You stopped worrying about money, finances, loan payments and instead focused on all the “good” in your life?

Can you imagine how great your Christmas Holidays would be if you made those “what if” decisions?

What’s stopping you? Read more…

Guest Post by Dr. Joe Rubino

Studies show that high self-esteem is the #1 ingredient essential for developing happiness, fulfillment, rich relationships, and overall success in life.

In the life of every child, usually sometime between birth and age 6, something happens to have the child doubt him or her self. Someone says or does something that has the child believe that he or she is flawed, unlovable, not worthy, imperfect.

This initial stressful incident is the first real realization that the child is not perfect and fails to measure up to society’s standards in some important way. The initial upset can be one of two types.

The first assault could be an unkind word from a peer or authority figure, a spanking, an insult, an argument, a bullying or name calling episode. It could occur as a direct result of something the child said or did that provoked an attack on his or her sense of worthiness or ability to fit in.

The second type of self-esteem diminishing episode can be as a result of the child misinterpreting someone’s words or actions to mean that the child is flawed, unlovable, or defective in some way. In such a case, no insult or demeaning connotation was intended. Read more…

Now This is really exciting news!

Tara Springett has just released her latest book – ADVANCED MANIFESTING

I have read an advance copy of this book and the information is – in my opinion – very powerful and extremely easy to apply.

You would be wise to pay attention to what Tara writes about. She is a Buddhist teacher, a fully qualified psychotherapist with post-graduate qualifications in gestalt therapy, body awareness therapy and trans-personal therapy and a published author.

Tara is not only my personal coach, but also a friend. I have spent years researching the self improvement industry and achieved a respectable level of success with what I learned.

However, when I first began working with Tara, I realized there was much more for me to learn. In the past I have successfully used techniques such as visualization, self-hypnosis, brainwave entrainment, EFT and so on.

Tara agrees these techniques play an important role in helping us to change and improve our lives, but… Read more…

My new friend Lisa Dorey is having a friendly contest in which you cannot lose.

First, when you sign up for her pre-launch competition before Oct. 30th, you get a chance to win either a copy of her new book or a complimentary healing session.

Second, even if you don’t win the competition, you get to download a sample copy of her ebook. So either way – you win!

Personally, I would love to win the “complimentary healing session” from Lisa. It doesn’t matter how much we learn, grow and change, there is always room to continue moving forward.

I’ve been very fortunate as I have witnessed first hand and enjoyed the positive results I achieved from healing sessions from a few different gifted individuals. If you are lucky enough to win, I would love for you to come back here and post your comments about your experience.

Let me tell you about the book and a little about Lisa Dorey, the Angel Interpreter: Read more…

In my continuing series of the types of automatic negative thoughts we have that keep us stuck, I want to help you understand the words we think of and use; and how these words often keep us stuck in repetitive failure patterns.

Regularly, others tell me they have difficulty learning to become aware of, or catching their self limiting subconscious thoughts which sabotage their efforts to achieve. I can relate to their problem as I had great difficulty in understanding how I could be consciously working so hard to make positive changes, but yet my subconscious was resisting.

In this article, you are getting a “peek behind the curtain” so to speak.

You will begin seeing how easily you too can catch the previously un-noticed negatives running on automatic in your subconscious. More importantly, you will also learn how to neutralize these negatives to eliminate the power they have over you.

Let’s get started – first with a few examples of the “everything, everyone or nothing” words that help to keep us stuck: Read more…

The blame game is a dangerous one to play! There are negative side affects you would be wise to learn about.

I was pretty good at blaming others before I understood how this automatic negative response adversely affected me – and I am confident as you read, you will see how you too have fallen into this trap.

When we blame others, we are passing responsibility for our life, our own happiness, on to others. In simple terms, we are now appearing as the “victim” of circumstances beyond our control.

Let’s be realistic. No one wants to appear to be the “bad guy or girl”. Blaming someone else feeds our ego and gives us the righteous feeling that we are okay and it is the other person who screwed up our life.

However, by taking this approach, we remain a victim and are powerless to make any positive changes. On the other hand, in taking responsibility for ourselves, we are empowered to make positive changes. Read more…

By now, you have hopefully been catching your thoughts as you began predicting future outcomes and now see how the mind takes a thought and creates this negative feedback loop that just grows and grows.

Today, I want to introduce you to another type of automatic negative thought – mind reading.

We all do it and we all experience negative results from allowing it to happen.

I will use a very recent experience with my 4 year old daughter as a perfect example of “mind reading” in action.

We were in the DVD section at a major retailer looking for new kids movies. My daughter is a very happy child and she loves to sing, which is what she was doing while we were browsing.

The next isle over, there was a group of teens laughing and joking. My daughter became agitated and expressed that it was very rude of those kids to laugh at her. However, they were not laughing at her singing and they probably weren’t even aware of her presence.

Can you relate to this?

How many times have you “thought” you knew what someone else was thinking when in fact you weren’t even close? Read more…